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Grieving parents honor stillborn daughter with emotional photos

LOS ANGELES — A grieving couple chose to honor their stillborn child in a unique and emotional way, hiring a photographer to capture their last moments with their daughter Monroe.

According to Yahoo Health, Richard and Emily Staley wanted to make sure they captured time with their stillborn daughter, as well as honor her as part of the family.

Emily was rushed to the hospital late in her pregnancy after she no longer felt her daughter moving. She was then told her daughter had passed away, and a short time later she gave birth to Monroe Faith Staley as a stillborn.

Photographer Lindsey Natzic-Villatoro of Love Song Events and Photography was there to capture the emotional moment.

The couple spent nine hours with their daughter. The photographer shared the photos and her emotional experience with the family on her Love Song Events & Photography Facebook Page. The photos have been shared over 100,000 times.

Here’s Natzic-Villatoro’s story (used with permission):

“As a mother the last phone call/email I want to get for a “forever loved” session is anything that has to do with a child. Friday afternoon as I was preparing for my weekend sessions with all 3 of my girls I got an email from a girl named Kelly telling me her sweet friend just found out her baby had died. She told me some details and asked if I would contact the family to be there in their time of need. Given the circumstances, you only have a very short window to truly capture these forever moments. I rushed out of the store I was in and called this woman.

When this mother answered the phone she could barley speak. She knew I was calling which I’m sure was the only reason why she answered the phone. She was short of breath, crying uncontrollably between her words and could barely even speak. She told me that earlier that morning she was eating breakfast, oatmeal actually. She had a cup of coffee and was proceeding with her usual routine. Her husband had already left for work and she was just at home relaxing with her son and niece. She noticed that her daughter hadn’t been moving in her belly like usual.

Normally it is her baby’s routine to have some fun in mom’s belly once she drinks her coffee. Considering that her baby hadn’t kicked all morning, mom moved her tummy a bit and after still feeling nothing went and got her heart monitor to check on her. Again mom heard nothing. In a panic she called her husband and told him what was going on and said she was going to drop the kids off to be watched and head to the hospital.

Once she got to the hospital they got her in a room to be monitored, and the nurse could not find a heartbeat. They then gave her an ultrasound and discovered her sweet baby had died due to the umbilical cord being wrapped around her child’s neck. They asked her if she would like to delivery the baby vaginally or said she could have a C-section. Given the fact mom had ate that morning she needed to come back for the surgery, she wanted the C-section.

She was told she could come at 3:30pm later that afternoon or 5:00am the following morning. Mom decided to come back given she was alone and wanted the support of her husband who was working over two hours away. She would of had to do the surgery alone if she decided to do it that day because it was impossible for him to be there by 3:30pm.

Mom, a total wreck left the hospital in disbelief. How was this happening? Her baby was just moving and alive late the evening before so how… why… why her? Why her baby? Why their child? Every question known to man popped into her mind- nothing made sense.

I met the family at 6:30am Saturday morning. I am a professional but human. Set aside my everyday photography, I photograph about 15 to 20 terminal sessions a month that range from every tragedy under the sun BUT that NEVER makes these easy. Every session I do affects me differently.

I walked into a cold hospital room, room 230- full of tears and family, everyone was in disbelief. I grabbed mom’s hand and I told her this was quite literally the worst thing that could ever happen to a mother but together we were going to get through this. I smiled at their nurse sweet Ronda, looked at dad and told him I was here to help them both. I also told them that there way NO right way to handle this. If they wanted to freak out on me, throw something, cry, yell…whatever, it was absolutely OK.

Thankfully I know many of the nurses and doctors at the hospital Mom was delivering at so I called Friday night and told them I’d be there in the morning. When I got there they gave mom the option of having me in the OR during the C-section. Mom and Dad decided that was right where I needed to be, although both were very scared and nervous. I went into the bathroom before we walked into the OR, said a prayer for the surgery and for everything that was about to transpire.

I then got all geared up, and together Dad and I met mom in the OR where surgery had already started. I looked at mom on the operating table, she knew my heart was breaking for her. With my hair and mouth covered, and only my eyes to be seen Mom and Dad both knew I was doing everything I could to be supportive and hold it together for them. I needed to be strong; I needed to do my job. At 7:52am I looked at that clock and sweet baby Monroe Faith Staley was born. I was the first to see her.

My eyes quickly filled with tears as I pulled my mask down, looked over to mom and dad and said, “SHE IS PERFECT.” Together we all cried. I stood next to the baby and watched the nurses give Monroe her first sponge bath, I touched her hands, put the hat I brought her on and took a few pictures. The nurse Miguel which we all adore then handed mom her baby girl as the doctor finished her surgery. It was a dream, this family was living a total nightmare. I can’t even begin to describe the pain I knew Mom and Dad were feeling at that moment.

As mom pleaded for her baby to wake up, her sweet husband brushed her hair with his hands crying with her. Cheek to cheek, clinging to their baby girl in disbelief; the two of them were pillars for each other. At 8:20am the four of us went across the hall to Mom’s room and for almost 9 hours Monroe never left their sight. I was able to capture moments that this family will forever have. I kissed this sweet baby over and over again… I even joked with Mom about taking her home.

We both got a giggle out of it. Baby was full term and ABSOLUTE PERFECTION, Monroe defined perfection. Throughout the morning and afternoon family members came to meet this perfect angel. I took the baby to the infant warmer and snapped away. Any image that came to mind, I shot. I wanted this family to have every possible memory of this child I could physically give them.

So with that being said, I would like you all to meet this beautiful family. 26 year old Mother Emily, 29 year old Father Richard, and baby girl Monroe Faith Staley weighing 6 pounds 2.5 ounces, 19 inches long.

This family wants you all to know they have felt your prayers. To those of you that responded to my post when I asked for prayer Friday evening, they appreciate the kindness you have shown to them.

Sweet Monroe has a 5 year old big brother that loved her dearly and was counting down the days until he could finally meet his baby sister. This death was EXTREMELY unexpected and tragic. I am asking you all for your help. Emily will be released from the hospital today and have to go home to a house full of baby items. She will have to walk into her daughter’s nursery and relive this nightmare for the rest of her life.

Please stop and pray for them. I said on Friday, “No matter what anybody says about grief and about time healing all wounds, the truth is, there are certain sorrows that never fade away until the heart stops beating and the last breath is taken.” And I ment that. NO FAMILY deserves this unbearable pain.

The Staley’s rest assured knowing they will be reunited with their sweet baby girl one day soon, but until that day comes they struggle thinking life will ever have some normalcy. They would like their story to be shared; they hope to bring comfort to other families out there that have also experienced such tragedy. They want their daughter’s life to be remembered.”

To donate to the family, visit their GoFundMe page.

 

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14 comments

  • Sherri Long

    My condulances to the Staley family! I’m sorry for your loss! Monroe is a beautiful baby girl! The pictures are precious and beautiful! Beautiful family! My prayers to you and your family!

  • Laurie wallace

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine your grief. I’m in tears your daughter is an angel this makes me appreciate my children so much. She’s in good hands. My love to your family.

  • Stephanie Baker

    I am so sorry for your loss! I know how you feel. I lost my son when I was 5 months pregnant due to chicken pox. They had to induce labor so he wouldn’t grow. I never got to do what did, and that was hold him or love him. We never why God does what he does. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. May God bless you!!! Monroe is a beautiful girl and I’m so sorry!!!!!

  • jeff

    It’s easy to get into blaming God, but life is just that life and sometimes it’s very difficult. Through time this couple will find normalcy.

  • Kerri Warren

    reading this brought tears to my eyes I am so deeply sorry for ur lil girl lost u and urfamily will be in my thoughts and prayers

  • Ellen

    As a mother and grandmother with a new granddaughter, my heart is breaking for you both! I think what you have done takes great strength! I sincerely hope that one day the incredible pain you must be feeling will diminish as I know it will always be with you! Hold on to each other and never let go!!

  • Lisa

    My prayers are with you during this difficult time. I am happy you were able to spend time with your precious angel and share her with so many of us. May God be with!

  • Gina Hipsak

    Such a beautiful beautiful angel, so perfect! My love and prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your pictures with us.

  • kmkjmom

    You are the one that is sick and delusional – I don’t believe in God, or “A god”, but the people that do find comfort in that when something like this happens. How can you comment your spew on this page when these people have lost their angelic child………..go troll somewhere else

  • Tonja D. Brown

    Really beautiful pictures of your little angel. As a mother who lost an adult son, this just brought tears to my eyes because I know your pain. With God’s help your pain will ease. Always ask Him for comfort in this difficult time and He will help you with your sorrow. ***************************************

    I am really sick of those that choose not to believe in God, verbally abusing, bashing and cursing us who do. If I had told you, Tod, that you are a stupid idiotic freak for not believing in God, you would have thrown some of my God’s own words right back in my face, such as casting the first stone and judging others!! Wouldn’t you? God never said, ever, that we all grow old. HE never said that death was only for old people and that babies, the uborn and children never die, only adults do.