Mother in bikini mocked over stretch marks posts open letter on Facebook, it goes viral

EDMONTON, Canada — A 33-year-old mother was mocked for her stretch marks by three strangers as she attempted to sunbathe at the beach while her kids played nearby.

She said this was her first time wearing a bikini in 13 years.

According to GlobalNews, Tanis Jex-Blake, a mother of five children, was laying down relaxing on the beach when she heard people start talking about her.

“All of a sudden I heard, ‘oh my god, look at that, that’s f****ng nasty, that’s disgusting, look how gross that is,’” Jex-Blake told GlobalNews.

She said when she opened her eyes, she saw two men and a woman pointing at her and pretending to kick her.

Jex-Blake said at the time she acted as if the hurtful comments didn’t affect her, but later texted her husband about the encounter and cried in the car while driving home.

Instead of keeping quiet and letting the incident go, Jex-Blake took to social media where she posted an open letter to the two men and woman along with a close-up picture of herself laying down in her bikini to Facebook.

The letter said:

“This is an open letter to the 2 guys and 1 girl who decided to skip work today in Sherwood Park where they were building a house , but instead decided to come to Alberta Beach to relax in the sun, enjoy the water and some beers.

I’m sorry if my first attempt at sun tanning in a bikini in public in 13 years “grossed you out”. I’m sorry that my stomach isn’t flat and tight. I’m sorry that my belly is covered in stretch marks. I’m NOT sorry that my body has housed, grown, protected, birthed and nurtured FIVE fabulous, healthy, intelligent and wonderful human beings. I’m sorry if my 33 year old, 125 lb body offended you so much that you felt that pointing, laughing, and pretending to kick me. But I’ll have you know that as I looked at your ‘perfect’ young bodies, I could only think to myself “what great and amazing feat has YOUR body done?”.

I’ll also have you know that I held my head high, unflinching as you mocked me, pretending that what you said and did had no effect on me; but I cried in the car on the drive home. Thanks for ruining my day. It’s people like you who make this world an ugly hateful place. I can’t help but feel sorry for the women who will one day bear your children and become “gross” in your eyes as their bodies change during the miraculous process of pregnancy. I can only hope that one day you’ll realize that my battle scars are something to be proud of, not ashamed of.”

As of Saturday, her personal post had been shared nearly 5,000 times.

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40 comments

    • Erin Andrews

      How do you “earn” something that was the result of your inability to keep your knees together, you tired old sex receptacle?

      • Tammy

        Clearly Erin you have no common sense. You must not be a mother and I seriously hope you never become a parent. People like you should be used as test dummies fior vaccinations.

        • fm

          You are mean person and should remember that what comes around goes around and that one day you probably won’t be appreciated for the way you look. Do you know what appreciated means? If not, go look it up – you can search the internet. What a Cee – u – nest – Tuesday! You are.

      • fmiller

        To the rude disgusting people who feel they need to comment negatively – why bother? Nobody cares what you say, except it does make educated and rational people like me realize that there you are thereally crappy and ignorant people on earth who think terrible things and hope for the worst for some people. If you don’t know what ignorant means try Wikipedia – it’s good for dummies, but fairly accurate :)

  • John T.

    I find this hardly to be news worthy. Mainly on the premise that other than this women’s claim, they’re is absolutely no proof that this incident happened.

    • JanS

      seriously…blame the victim…if it had happened to you, how the f*%k would you feel? Of, course, you’re a man, and have no idea what it’s about, since you will never feel the joy of giving birth…she made it up? seriously, you douche?

    • K2

      John have a can of SHUT THE HELL UP! What do you want for her to have taken pictures of them and post them. Think about it this way, what if it was your Mom this happened to or your favorite Aunt. How would you feel then?

    • di chavez

      Ok Sandy you must be one of those old looking haggs no one wants to see in a two piece. Keep it to yourself, your insecurity is showing.

    • Nina

      If you are ashamed of your body well then YOU put a one piece back on. And if you have so graciously been blessed to not have any stretch marks then shut thee fuck up.

  • Mindy

    How about “Don’t show off your body to the world if you don’t want the world to have an opinion about it” You either can take it and be yourself and not give a crap or you can hole yourself in a cubboard and never come out. Stretch marks are ugly and if I could choose to have kids and not have stretch marks I would in a heartbeat. I don’t consider them battle scars, nor will I be goaded into calling them anything but what they are. Ugly. Do they make the person any less a person? No. Do they give anyone a reason to be a jackass? Nope. But “looking past appearance to the real person” also means I can say that something is ugly. In fact I can think that a person is the most ugly person on the planet and still love their soul and treat them with respect. That is truly accepting a person for who they are.

    • di chavez

      You must one of those ugly people Mindy that I have to look in the inside. Wait your rude comments showing your colors your pretty freaking ugly inside and out.

    • K2

      Di, I totally agree with you. Mindy”s probably REALLY FAT and wears a T-shirt over her suit. I wouldn’t care if she was at the pool, lake or a tropical beach but with her inner ugliness showing I’m sure it would be hard not to miss her. Mindy if you are thin, good for you but karma is going to come back hard, maybe fat kids or grandkids, hope you keep them covered up so they don’t affend you or others.

  • di chavez

    You must be one of those ugly people I have to look inside for beauty Mindy. “Oh”! Wait your rude comments shows your pretty freaking ugly inside and outside.

  • Megan

    Are you serious? Everyone has every right to wear whatever the hell they want! She should be able to wear a two piece and be damn proud of it! As she said her body did an amazing deed and brought your future into this world. She should be able to show off her body without being judged. As far as not news worthy, other self conscious mothers need to know they aren’t alone and its a better story than all the damn celebrities that are so called “holier than thee.” She has spent the last 13 years hiding her body for the exact same reason as she was hesitant this time. My faith in humanity goes down more and more. Smh

  • Brianna

    I don’t understand why people would make a big deal over this woman’s stretch marks. I have seen far worse than that and even those people just let it all hang out without a worry. It is a shame that people openly show their disgust for others instead of keeping to themselves about it. The reality of life is that even if you have the perfect body, there will come a time where it will age and change. Some more than others, but it is inevitable for everyone. So instead of putting others down for your body’s natural cycle, why not just enjoy and celebrate life and health instead?

  • Kitt McIntyre

    Umm, I see people of all shapes, sizes, ages, stretch mark ridden, flabby, freckly, etc… at the pool beach and aren’t ridiculed or shunned. These rude things said say a hell of a lot more about the people saying it then about this mother. Haters are always going to find a reason to hate, and if it wasn’t her they would have found something or someone else to ridicule. Let jerks be jerks and go on about your day with your head held high. Karma will take care of what needs taken care of.

  • Sondra

    I used to feel self-conscious of my body after having 4 children, that is until I went to a public pool with my children and saw a man – 80% of his body covered with scars from being severely burned in a fire. He didn’t wear a T-shirt to cover his scars, only swim trunks. He was having a beautiful day with his children – so HAPPY – so “ALIVE”. I thought, “what a beautiful sight. It made me feel ashamed to have been so self conscious over a few stretch marks.

  • Stephanie

    This article uses “laying” several times where it should say “lying”. Get a copy editor who knows basic grammar.

    • K2

      Wow, the grammar teacher is in the house. Really that is all you took from the article. There is one in every crowd, here’s your sign.

  • Amanda

    My goodness, im shocked to see so many people or adults I should say, that are on here saying such horriable things to eachother. I felt like I was back in jr. High listening to a bunch of mean kids making fun of eachother. It really is terriable. As for the story, yeah, being pregnant gives almost all women stretch marks. Im sure these were just punk ass young kids with a few drinks in them being jerks. I myself was about 200 lbs until about a year ago. Partially due to pregnancy, and everything to do with the fact that I didnt excersize after my pregnancy. Yeah, I got stretch marks too. I finally decided to lose weight. Now im down to 115lbs. And very happy. But due to the marks and some loose skin on my tummy, I choose not to wear a bikini, because I dont think it looks good. Now, I do not embrace my stretch marks as some kind of trophy from giving birth. I think they suck. But if this lady has the guts to get into a bikini with her marks, then good for her. I dont know why this is such a big deal to everyone. I think the men on here are just trying to get a rise out of some women. And in the very funny words of kat williams ” if you got stretch marks that just means one of two things..Either you was big and got small, or you was small and got big! Either way we f**kin, either way!”

  • Kelly

    I am completely appalled at some of these comments. I applaud this woman and her open letter.. she did something amazing- giving birth to five miracles. She, like everyone else, has the right to wear either a two piece, one piece, shorts or even pants on the beach! A body changes when you get pregnant, and it is a beautiful thing, not something to be ashamed of. There are also people that have overcome years of depression and weight loss that should also not feel ashamed to show the world what they have accomplished. Shame on the people that judge others like this! It takes an insecure and shallow person to ridicule someone else. This closed minded way of thinking is why there is so much hate in this world..so many of our children that are growing up in today’s society thinking that there is only one way to be, and striving for impossible and unhealthy body types. Not everyone is photo shoot ready with a perfect body. We are sending the wrong message to our future generations! I close this with something I was told growing up. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all!

  • Ono Kono

    You go girl! You are beautiful, and even though the comments stung enough to make you cry, you rose above it with pride and dignity. More people like you is needed in this world. Thank you for sharing a moment you faced with bullies. It took more courage than it took for those who ridicule. They show disrespect for themselves, and it has nothing to do with you.

  • Pointless story

    Those stretch marks aren’t anything to be proud of. Not all women get them and many have had multiple children. The stretch marks are unsightly and unpleasant. If she’s ballsy enough to show them off great for her! But be prepared for comments. The female sex is made to carry offspring. All female species reproduce. How does it make it a miracle of something to be proud of? I don’t understand. And this story is a complete waste of time and pointless. There is no evidence the incident actually occurred. But good for her and her confidence. She just shouldn’t be offended at people’s reactions. It’s human nature to react to such things. I have a child and I took care of myself and was able to avoid stretch marks. I did get a few but they healed because I took care of myself. I’m tired of women making excuses of their body after pregnancy. Do something about it take care of yourself and your child and it’s likely you’ll avoid a ton of weight gain and the stretch marks that come for growing too fast!

    • A

      Everyones body is different I gained barely twenty pounds my pregnancy. I gained weight very slowly and have horrible strech marks. I also worked out and ate healthy who says that this woman didn’t take care of herself strech marks are often gentic you are just lucky. I would hope that more women would show their strech marks with pride and not be ashamed. Saying that strech marks are unsightly is just plain rude marks that a beautiful baby left on your body are a beautiful reminder of the child you carried inside of your body and are anything but unpleasant. What is unpleasant is that people can say such hurtful words and she gets critisized for getting strech marks and then not being ashamed of them….

  • L.

    I have to comment to make on the picture. But honestly, there is nothing good to have so many kids at the age of only 33… What’s wrong with the people that they need to reproduce like rabbits.

  • Dan Smith

    The time out generation has grown up. Now we have to deal with these disrespectful little assholes who don’t know how to behave or know any manners. If they never got their ass beat when they were kids to learn any manners does that mean we can beat their ass now?

  • mscandy1

    It’s funny. I just read an article the other day about body dysmorphia; a young 20 something yr old named Tallulah Willis was overly critical and self-conscious about her body and obsessed with looking pretty to everyone else. On that same article in the comments I read something from a grown man that said he has no respect for women that pay too much attention to their looks and that he had no sympathy for her & could not understand why she had that disorder. I laughed to myself, knowing that he has a little pea sized brain just like all the people on here judging this woman on this article, especially the men. Don’t like women focusing on their looks but at the same time judge every little thing on their bodies. Women are held to this ideal that we must have good bone structure, big eyes, small noses, full lips, long shiny thick hair, big perky breasts, small waist, big butt, long legs, wide hips, clear skin, and dress the part. Meanwhile, nobody constantly says men have to have this and that. All they gotta do is have good hygiene, have a good personality and they can get a woman. Nobody constantly echoes it in their face that they MUST have rock hard muscular bodies because it’s “good for mating” B**lshit. Do you know how many females are fat, or have ‘ugly’ scars on them, or who are scary skinny, that STILL pop out gorgeous looking children? That mating stuff is a lie. This is why MANY teenage females and young women have self esteem issues. I see the guys on here acting like her story means nothing because they don’t find her stretch marks attractive. They probably aren’t 10’s themselves but yet they want the perfect woman. Men like that – avoid them at all costs.

  • mscandy1

    I forgot to say – the perfect woman doesn’t exist. I also feel sorry for any woman that gets with the men who said this article isn’t worthy of being published. When their woman gets stretch marks (and she definitely will) from having your baby, what will you say then?

    I have stretch marks on my arms/shoulders and stomach. But it’s not from pregnancy. It’s 50% from my growth spurt as a kid (I’m currently 5’11”) and from weight gain, in which I lost about 50 lbs. To me, at first I didn’t like my stretch marks. But now I’m happy I have them. I don’t look at them as scars, but I consider them my best friends and my *protection* against shallow superficial jerks. That’s the great thing about not having flawless skin. You can see if a guy really cares about you, or if he is a very vain person. My stretch marks are like my buddies who save me time and the pain of having to find out later on if I ever have kids – whether or not that guy will still find me attractive, and remain with me – because he WILL have no choice but to decide once we see eachother naked for the first time. That’s what I love about my scars. They allow you to see ugly people before they can really try to hurt you. And your stretch marks bring the right men into your life.


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